As man you must realize that you cannot please your wife if you are not successful, you must have something meaningful to contribute to her life, my brother, if your woman tells you not to worry that she is okay with your financial state when in actual sense you can’t feed yourself or you still stay with your parents, then you must realize that she has another source of power supply, it may be from her parents or another man, but you don’t expect a lady who has a man to still collect from parent, even if she does that, there must be a kind of support from her man.
Ladies have needs, important ones and when they don’t get them from their man, they tend to want to get it somewhere else, those in accounting call it “cash backing”, even if she earns her own money it will be appreciable if she gets something from her man, these kinds of guys get respected by their women, it makes her feel secure, protected and loved. This is why you must strive to be successful as man.
According to a friend Yakubu Daniel, the president of Faculty Of Arts Students Association, University of Benin, he claims in this quote “If I have a woman who does not ask me for money, I will break up with her. A woman who does not ask for money encourages financial complacency and financial stagnancy and will never encourage her man to work hard” Yakubu claims that women who give their men money at will not encourage him to work, you will not encourage him to hustle hard, instead what you will successfully do is make him dependent on you most times.
Personally, I don’t respect ladies that give me money if I don’t ask from you, (which is very rare though) if for example I have a project I want to embark on, if I ask her for money to complete my project then it’s very fine, after all that is what companionship is all about.
It very terrible to run a family as a broke man, seriously is not fun at all, you will forget love and turn to a nagging person, you will sometimes feel guilty of making love to your wife when you have not even given her a square meal of the day, even your wife will complain and can fall into temptation.
My boss Dr. Peter Omonzejele backed this up in a very lucid way, he says “A man must strive to be comfortable, you must be able to provide for your wife, her love for you is dependent on how well you are able to protect her financially, this is why I encourage young men to work hard, use the time invested in chasing girls to make your life better, and when you are comfortable, women will come and you will even get tired”
Even the bible talks about leadership which comprises of provision and protection. A husband will never get the love and respect of his woman if he does not care for her, you can make her do things grudgingly or by the virtue of the love she once had for you, you can never truly have her heart if you don’t provide for her needs, her material and spiritual need should be more important to you. The scripture says it all:
“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8).
On a final note, we know that things are becoming more difficult in the midst of economic recession, lack of Jobs and Money too. But others are achieving greatness, some are earning and living well. Stop complaining of the misbehavior of your woman if you are not financially stable, correct that by becoming financially comfortable by working harder than you have been doing. Work harder and Pray hard it as simple as that!
Subscribe To Our Newsletter
Join our mailing list to receive the latest news and updates from our team.